Friends say, “Just call anytime and I will come.”
Calling too often would be taking advantage of their kindness.
So I have given a lot of thought to help from friends.
After a friend leaves, I invariably think of something I should have
asked them to do for me. I need to keep clipboards handy, with one for each friend. And also an ongoing
“quick” list of things that anyone
can help with. So if someone stops by, I can get something off the list quickly.
Things like thread a few needles, help
with filing something, or just look for something that I can't see. I
always have something lost.
I want to keep in mind the the strengths my friends have. One friend is very computer savvy; another is a gardener and needle worker; and another likes to shop at thrift stores. So I can pick something that a friend may enjoy. as well as being a help to me.
One of my friends who has the busiest life has set aside one to two hours two days a month on Wednesdays just for me. I can plan on it and she helps with online tasks such as mail orders, banking, etc. We can whiz right through when she comes.
Another friend goes to nurseries, Trader Joe's, and the Asian market. She will call and invite me along. Since she's going anyway, I feel I'm not imposing.
When I lunch with my sister, I try to work in a stop at a drugstore or a dollar store to pick up the little things. I always seem to need. She is also my go-to person for reading cards. It's hard to have someone willing to stand there and read a dozen cards aloud until you find the one that is just right.
My daughter-in-law comes twice a year. I count on her to help me with things not so easy for other people. Last spring she helped me shop for a recliner. This fall we shopped for my new mattress. Already I know when she comes in the spring that we will be shopping for tiles for the back splash in the kitchen, and also advertise some things I want to sell.
The most precious help I get from my friends is lifting my spirits. There is no antidepressant like love, laughter, and lunch with a friend.